Adapting comedien Aamer Rahman’s skit that destroys the reverse racism myth, I applied the same reasoning to smash the misandry/reverse sexism myth too. Here it goes:
All any woman needs to be a misandrist or a reverse sexist is a time machine to go back to 10,000 BCE—before the Neolithic Revolution of mass agriculture and animal husbandry.
Convince all the tribal/community leaders to subjugate males as property and livestock (which is what men did to women), strip males of any and all economic, social, and sexual rights and ensure that only women got to own/control land and the access to water, and then set up a slave trade where we exploited males and killed them off with sexual slavery (for which we then victim-blamed/stigmatized/criminalized the men and denied them any place in society other than the gutter and an early grave) and subjected them to reproductive abuse, and then set up all other social systems that privilege women and girls over men in every conceivable social, political, legal, educational, and economic opportunity so that men would never have any real hope of self-determination.
And then every few decades fabricate some crisis as an excuse to sacrifice the VERY limited liberties and the lives of males en masse while saying that it’s all for their own good because their gender is inferior per some female-supremacist religion and divine decree—and better yet, do it in the name of “freedom” and “liberty.”
Oh, and then we could subject males to women’s standards of beauty and “worthiness” to the point where males hate their own bodies and have negative to zero self-esteem.
If, after centuries of doing all that, a woman entertainer got on screen or on stage and said “Hey, what’s men’s problem? Why do they dress as sexually promiscuous tramps and then cry about rape? Why can’t they think logically or get jobs or invent anything beneficial to society while wanting welfare handouts? Men have it made!”—THAT would be misandry and reverse sexism.
Stupidest thing ever is this infantilization of patriarchy like, “it’s boys who do those things; a ~~real man~~~ would never be that way” no listen to me, it is not little boys who crack jokes that make up patriarchy but actual grown-ass men engaging in actual physical, systematic, structural, emotional, verbal violence against women. Patriarchy is not puberty you grow out of but a backdrop wired into the fabric of our society.
Women and girls should never apologise for their bodies.
*nobody should ever apologize for their bodies
Did I stutter? If I wanted to make a general post I would have.
Women and girls should never apologise for talking about women and girls either.
Jacqueline S. Homan - Without Apology (via terristrange)
Katha Pollitt, "Hers; The Smurfette Principle" (h/t: "Ms. Male Character - Tropes vs Women in Video Games")
I found this website called “Manhood 101”, which is basically a website where, you can pay a monthly fee to attend this online “school” where the “professor” that owns the website, basically teaches you how to be a woman hating, controlling, misogynistic douche fuck.
I spent some time this morning reading through the websites “E-book”. I wrote down some of the bullshit propaganda that they book is trying to teach men.
- "Allowing women to vote is no different then allowing children to govern themselves. Women allow their emotions to determine their governing structure, negating the point of even creating laws” Pg.32
- "In the absence of male leadership, women are forced to govern themselves, even though they lack the capacity to do so. Women are not qualified to govern society. They require men to properly care for their needs.”
- "Women and children lack the capacity to grasp inner workings of authority” Pg.131
- "Women lack stable reasoning faculty like men" pg.151
- "Because a woman’s self esteem is central to her identity, her emotional state takes precedence over telling the truth. Like children, women allow their emotions to dictate their perspective. They lack the necessary discipline to arrive at rational, objective conclusions, especially when their self esteem is threatened.”
- "The disturbing amount of false rape accusations made by women each year confirms this fact" pg.152
- "You need to learn how to stand your ground. Being a functional man means saying "NO" to bitch behavior. You have to realize telling a woman "NO" is one of the most valuable things you can do for her" Pg.159
- "You must administer enough pain to stop dysfunctional behavior"
- "In your relationship, you may expect your girlfriend to do the dishes. If the defys your authority you should expose her disorderly condition through the use of pain. A punishment must be applied to restore a healthy fear of your governing authority. Strong reprimanding her qualified as a painful punishment. If she refuses to submit to your authority, you should escalate the punishment by increasing the pain.”
- "Women are naturally insecure and incomplete without men. They need the pleasurable direction and attention of men to function. Without it their lives become chaotic and full of suffering" pg.238
- "Today’s women turn to prescription drugs to alleviate symptoms of their malnourished identities- one that lacks the guidance of male authority. Psychological disorders, panic attacks, anxiety all stem from a lack of direction provided by male authority"
SO, basically this book is asserting that men are superior to women, women are basically emotional children that are less intelligent then men and need men to have control and authority over their lives, or else they get mentally sick and act “dysfunctional”. The book condones males using verbal reprimands and “negative associations” to train their women to act submissive to them and do what they say. The book has a lot of generalizations about the female gender, is very sexist and demeaning towards women, and is essentially promoting the same bullshit men used to believe in back in the 1950’s.
If you are a woman and you disagree with any of this, you are obviously just letting those “crazy” emotions of yours govern your opinions, and you simply don’t know any better.
If you are a man that disagrees with this websites teachings, you’re just a “emasculated” beta male and you’re simply “wrong”.
It is scary to think, that there are men out there, that are paying the creator of this website/e-book, to teach them how to be controlling, manipulative assholes to their wives and girlfriends.
TL;DR: Read it. I know it is difficult to read several paragraphs now-a-days, but do it anyways :)
i would happily drown this guy in hydrochloric acid
This “course” is basically, how to be an Abusive Patriarchal Man 101 which, by the way, is disgusting.
Reblogging again for that paragraph because that is the part we forget the most.
Anyone who says the phrase “Instead of teaching your daughters how to not get raped, teach your sons not to rape” is implying that only men rape and that only women can be raped.
There is no other explanation, implication, or justification for that phrase.
Pretty sure your stats are wiiiiiiildly off.
Pretty sure you’re wrong, friend.
"99% of people who rape are men, 60% are Caucasian."
Greenfeld, L. A. Sex Offenses and Offenders: An Analysis of Data on Rape and Sexual Assault, Washington, D. C.: U.S. Department of Justice, Bureau of Justice Statistics, 1997.
"More than one in five men report "becoming so sexually aroused that they could not stop themselves from having sex, even though the woman did not consent.""
(1 in 5 is 20%. One in FIVE.)
Peterson, S. A., and B. Franzese. “Correlates of College Men’s Sexual Abuse of Women.” Journal of College Student Personnel 28 (1987): 223-28.
"95 to 98 percent of victims of domestic violence are women."
** Thoennes, Nancy, and Tjaden, Patricia. “Prevalence, Incidence, and Consequences of Violence Against Women: Findings of the National Violence Against Women Survey.” U.S. Department of Justice, November 1998.
"It also stated that 99% of the people convicted of and imprisoned in response to rape accusations were male, with only 1% of those convicted being female."
"Sex Offenses and Offenders". United States Department of Justice/bjs.ojp.usdoj.gov. pp. 5 and 8. Retrieved November 8, 2013.
There’s more, shall I keep going?
DEBUNKING THE MEN’S RIGHTS MOVEMENT
MARCH 12, 2014
What follows is a response to a popular list of claims and arguments made by men’s rights activists.
1. SUICIDE: Men’s suicide rate is 4.6 times higher than that of women’s. [Dept. Health & Human Services — 26,710 males vs 5,700 females]
Not for lack of trying: women attempt it three times as often.  Men are more likely to succeed because we are trained for violence, trained for emotional detachment, and trained to deal with problems ourselves rather than seeking help from others. Moreover, we are socialized with a sense of self-importance that can lead men to believe family members would be better off dead without them or to use suicide as a form of revenge against people close to them. The statistic given here also masks that many of these “suicides” were actually murder-suicides. In the United States, an estimated 1,000 to 1,500 people died in suicide attacks each year.  More than ninety percent of the offenders are men; nearly all the victims are female. 
2. LIFE EXPECTANCY: Men’s life expectancy is seven (7) years shorter than women’s [National Center for Health Statistics — males 72.3 yrs vs females 79 yrs] yet receive only 35% of government expenditures for health care and medical costs.
This is a curious statement. If women live seven years longer than men, it should be obvious why they receive more health support: because the oldest people in society are those that most need subsidized health support, and the oldest people are predominantly women. Furthermore, the insurance industry charges $1 billion a year more to women in health insurance each year for the same coverage plans men receive , and up to 53% more for the same individual coverage plan , despite women’s overall better health and despite receiving 23% less income then men. 
3. WAR: Men are almost exclusively the only victims of war [Dept. Defense — Vietnam Casualties 47,369 men vs 74 women]
The first thing to say is that if trained soldiers sent to engage in imperial wars of aggression can be called “victims” at all, then they are victims of those responsible for the wars in which they fought. And those responsible are men. All Presidents and Vice Presidents have been men. All members of the Joint Chiefs of Staff have been men. Both branches of Congress have always been dominated by men. Polls since Vietnam show that men have been the ones to support going to war, and the ones most likely to support wars currently in progress.  On every level of analysis it is men who are responsible for war, and to somehow blame male combat deaths on women is not only absurd, but insane. If we want to stop these deaths, we need to stop those who are responsible for them: the male politicians, male military personnel, male war contractors, and male warmongers who perpetuate them.
The second thing to say is that this is simply a lie. A study by researchers at the Harvard Medical School looking at wars in 13 countries, including the Vietnam War, found that of the 5.4 million people violently killed, more than 1 million were female.  This figure does not account for those women killed less directly through aerial spraying, inflicted poverty, or as the result of sexual torture by men. This also ignores male sexual violence during wartime. In Vietnam, for instance, it was common and accepted practice for soldiers to gang rape women and young girls, as well to kill a female following a rape.  Such was the frequency of the latter that the term “double veteran” was coined to refer to such perpetrators. 
4. WORKPLACE FATALITIES: Men account for more than 95% of all workplace fatalities.
The figure is 92% as of 2012. One important reason for this discrepancy is that men are inclined to select work that is dangerous in order to prove their masculinity to women, to other men, and to themselves. According to the Bureau of Labor Statistics, the most dangerous professions in the United States are construction, transportation, and warehousing, all of which are male-dominated professions.  Men’s relative risk of danger is further increased through a relative lack of safety compliance.  Tellingly, the most common way for a woman to die in the workplace is to be murdered. 
5. MURDER: Men are murdered at a rate almost 5 times that of women. [Dept. Health & Human Services — 26,710 men vs 5,700 women]
Men also murder at a rate more than 9 times that of women. That men are often killed by other men is not a problem that women are responsible for. I can hardly imagine why that even needs to be said. In the United States in 2010, 1,095 women were killed by husbands or boyfriends, accounting for 37.5% of female murders. By contrast, only 241 men were killed by their female partners.  The smallness of this figure is particularly striking when we consider that 200,000 women in the United States suffer serious violence from male partners each year. 
6. CHILD CUSTODY: Women receive physical custody of 92% of all children of separation, and men only 4%. [Department of Health & Human Services]
91% of the time, custody is agreed upon or settled by parents themselves, usually without outside mediation. Mothers are more likely to receive custody because both parents usually understand that it is in the best interests of their children. In married two-partner households, women spend nearly twice as much time doing child care as their male partners.  Only 4% of custody cases go to trial and only 1.5% are resolved there.  In disputed custody cases, fathers win custody 70% of the time,  despite abusive men being among those most likely to fight for custody. 
7. JURY BIAS: Women are acquitted of spousal murder at a rate 9 times that of men [Bureau Justice Statistics — 1.4% of men vs 12.9% of women]
This is not a matter of “bias”: women are sometimes acquitted of murdering their husbands because their husbands abused them or their children. It is estimated that 1.3 million women are beaten by male partners in the United States every year, putting them in fear for their lives.  Every one of these women would be justified in killing her spouse or partner and receiving an acquittal. It is exceptionally rare for any man to experience a comparable level of terroristic threat from his wife.
8. COURT BIAS: Men are sentenced 2.8 times longer than women for spousal murder [Bureau Justice Statistics — men at 17 years vs women at 6 years]
As per above, many women receive lighter sentences for killing their husbands because their purpose in doing so was to stop physical abuse against themselves or their children.
9. JUSTICE SYSTEM BIAS: Women are assessed for Child Support on average at half the rate of men, yet are twice as likely to default on Child Support payments. Ninety Seven (97%) of all child support prosecutions are against fathers. [Census Bureau]
Women are assessed less often than men and default more often because women aged 18-35 have on average $0 in net worth. Many mothers simply have no means to pay child support. By comparison, white men of the same age have a median wealth of $5,600, and men of color have $1,000.  This wealth discrepancy also pressures young mothers who care for the welfare of their children to prosecute men for child support.
10. DOMESTIC VIOLENCE: Numerous credible studies from independent researchers report that women are the initiators of domestic violence in 58% of all cases, and cause physical abuse in almost 50% of all cases, yet women only account for 6% of all criminal proceedings in such matters.
It’s telling that you speak of “numerous credible studies” and carefully avoid citing any of them. I tried to find studies from any source making such claims, with no success. What I did find is the most recent report by the US Department of Justice, which found women suffer 805,700 physical injuries at the hands of partners each year, compared to 173,960 men. Moreover, the injuries suffered by women were more than twice as likely to be considered “serious”, defined as including sexual violence, gunshot and knife wounds, internal injuries, unconsciousness, and broken bones. To put that another way, partners inflicted 104,741 serious injuries on women, compared with less than 9,400 inflicted on men, a greater than 11:1 ratio.  Even those men who have been subject to partner violence have usually not taken it seriously. According to a study by researchers at the Medical College of Wisconsin, they were “significantly more likely than were women to laugh at partner-initiated violence”, while women “reported more fear, anger, and insult and less amusement when their partners were violent.”  It’s also worth noting that a number of these male injuries were incurred by male rather than female partners; according to a 2000 Department of Justice report, men living with male partners are at nearly twice the risk of “serious” violence as those living with women.  If women really are criminally prosecuted in 6% of domestic violence cases, then that figure sounds eminently reasonable.
11. CHILD VIOLENCE: Mothers commit 55% of all child murders and biological fathers commit 6%. NIS-3 indicates that Mother-only households are 3 times more fatal to children than Father-only households. Despite these compelling figures, children are systematically removed from the natural fathers who are their most effective protectors.
The first sentence is unsourced and not credible. According to one group of filicide [child murder] researchers:
Although some studies have noted that mothers commit filicide more often than fathers, other research has shown that paternal filicide is as common or more common than maternal filicide.
Reports of a higher proportion of maternal filicides most likely reflect the inclusion of neonaticides in some studies. 
In other words, there is no agreement as to whether mothers or fathers are more likely to kill their own children, but when mothers are seen as more likely, it is likely because infanticides are included in the results. According to the above researchers, the main motivation “may be the undesirability of the child,” and mothers under the age of 20 with a previous child are among those most likely to engage in such a murder. Young mothers without sufficient economic, family, or medical support may find there are no better options for themselves or for their other children. By contrast, fathers who kill their children are “often perpetrators of fatal-abuse filicide”, meaning that they batter their children to death. Some of the most common motivations for father filicide are “attempts to control the child’s behavior, and misinterpretation of the child’s behavior”. 
I’ve recently obtained a copy of the NIS-3 study, and while Table 5-4 does indeed provide data indicating that “Mother-only households are 3 times more fatal to children than Father-only households,” the provided footnote also says explicitly that the difference is either statistically insignificant or marginal, with p-values above 0.10. What that means is that the numbers, while provided, are statistically worthless and cannot be used to even hint at inferences. Meanwhile, the data from the NIS-3 regarding parental households that is statistically valid paints a very different picture. In every category, father-only households put children at a higher risk of harm than mother-only households. Risk of abuse is 71% higher, including a 68% greater chance of physical abuse. Risk of neglect is 28% higher, including a 32% rise for physical neglect, 67% rise for emotional neglect, and 14% rise for educational neglect. Risk of both moderate or serious injury is 40% higher.
That this is true is particularly exceptional when we pair this with data from the more recent NIS-4 study which found that households with a lower socioeconomic status were nearly 7 times more likely to involve neglect, including a nearly ninefold risk of physical neglect. Overally the safety of children in these households was classified as 5.7 times more severe than those of a higher socioeconomic background.  Single women with children are far more likely than men to live under conditions of severe poverty: both black and Hispanic women with children under age 18 have an average median wealth of $0, compared to $10,960 for black men and $2,400 for Hispanic men; white women with children have an average median wealth of $7,970, compared to an average of $56,100 for white men.  If economic justice for women was sufficiently advanced, we would expect the safety of mother-only households illustrated by the NIS-3 to increase still further. Given this information, to call fathers the “most effective protectors” of children is a hateful turn of phrase, suggesting that mothers wish harm on their children and only fathers can protect them. This in spite of the reality that children are far safer in the custody of their mothers than their fathers.
12. WEALTH: Women hold 65% of the total wealth in the USA [Fortune Magazine]
This is a ridiculous lie, and to their credit I can find no evidence that Fortune Magazine ever made such a claim.
Contrary to this claim, one Harvard University researcher found that men have an average net worth of $26,850, compared to an average of $12,900 for women.  That is to say, men on average hold more than twice the wealth of women.
 Nick Turse, Kill Anything That Moves: The Real American War in Vietnam, pages 164-171
 Joan Zorza, “Batterer manipulation and retaliation compounded by denial and complicity in the family courts” In M.T. Hannah & B. Goldstein (editors), Domestic violence, abuse and child custody: Legal strategies and policy issues
This synopsis was written by Owen Lloyd, a stay-at-home dad living on the Oregon coast. Hate mail can be addressed to him at firstname.lastname@example.org.